I know that God instituted marriage, and therefore He receives glory from that union, but again, my question remains, am I slighting God His dues by dividing my active attention between what He wants and what I want? Fact is, people have to meet somehow, and we are going to have a hard time carrying out our Genesis 1 mandate to fill the earth in a godly way without the majority of people marrying. So my next question is this: what is the correct way to find a spouse? I. don't. know. My experience is that I've had crushes on girls, and there have been girls who "make sense" (This is not cold like it sounds-what I mean is that these girls have everything that I could want in a spouse, and as crushes come and go, these girls remain an "ideal" in my head.). It seems to be an easy choice as to which of the two types I should pursue, but here's the catch: how do you initiate a romantic relationship outside of a crush? In my (admittedly non-extensive) experience, it seems almost impossible to tell a girl that she has everything you want without (A.) Sounding like an instant marriage proposal, or (B) Sounding like a business proposition.
The passage I mentioned earlier in 1 Cor. seems to take a more proactive approach to marriage than waiting for the euphemism, "God to bring someone into your life," so my dilemma remains, how do I juggle my desire for this relationship, my desire to follow God's calling in my life, and figuring out the 400-faced rubik's cube that is the female mind?
